Do you remember the feelings teenage you had when holding hands
with someone you cared about romantically? The first time a boyfriend held my
hand with affection (and continued holding it when his friends were around) was
certainly a big deal to me. Truthfully, it still is. I welcome my husband
showing affection with a simple and loving gesture such as holding my hand. It
is especially nice when being introduced to friends and colleagues because it
communicates our relationship without words.
Men are not the only ones who can show support and caring by
taking their partners’ hands. For example, I tend to be extroverted
(understatement of the week) and find that in certain social situations taking
my husband’s hand is a gesture of support he appreciates.
TIP - To avoid getting your feelings hurt or creating an
awkward situation, it is wise to communicate your level of comfort with holding
hands in public. It is important to respect each other’s feelings about public
displays of affection. There is usually a middle ground both parties will find
comfortable.
Romantic benefits of holding hands:
- It can be a subtle form of sensual physical intimacy.
- It gives us a sense of protection and safety.
- It expresses closeness and comfort.
- It has the connotation of a committed connection between two people.
Non-romantic benefits of holding hands:
- Holding hands with a parent, grandparent or child shares that you value her/him and are present in that moment with him/her.
- It can send the message that someone you care about is accepted and is not alone.
- Holding hands fulfills a basic human need for touch and can reduce stress.
When was the last time you held hands romantically with your
partner? When was the last time you held your parent or grandparent’s hand to
show how much you care?
Peace to you and yours - Jackie
